It’s only very recently that during a conversation with someone very close to me that I have realised that I myself was in such a situation as this, while in a long term relationship, I know that some may find it strange that a man is actually saying this, (as in so many cases it is usually the man who is the abuser, not the woman), but it is the truth and something I have realised, learned from, come to terms with and accepted. I am not ashamed or emabarressed to admit that this was the case, or looking for sympathy, I am submitting this post to highlight this growing and sadly frequent situation that so may people find themselves in, both Male and Female. I have done a little study work on this subject and have found the following listed below as a guide to anyone who may want to learn more about the subject or may find themselves in a similar situation.
- An abuser often tries to isolate their victims by alienating them from friends and family. This causes the victim to depend on the abuser.
- The abuser may accuse the victim of being unfaithful if they discuss the opposite sex.
- The abuser may guilt the victim into performing sexual acts to prove their love, or withhold sex as punishment.
- The abuser may constant criticize the victim’s looks or weight.
- The abuser may not allow the victim to have access to the finances or make decisions such as where to live or what car to drive.
- Victims of mental abuse may have low self-esteem, feel guilt when standing up for themselves, procrastinate, and are often in denial about the abusive relationship.
Sex as a Weapon
Information sourced from e-how.com