Archive for Jul 18th, 2011
We may feel insecure around a boss or a successful and attractive member of the opposite sex. Or we may just feel intimidated by crowds and have no greater goal than making it through the experience without unduly embarrassing ourselves.
Causes of insecurity and the effects of different methods used to reduce it will vary. Here are five areas that may help.
Sometimes we feel insecure because we live such busy, stressful lives. Aside from old fashioned stresses like education, family, relationships and career, a more recent source of stress has been multitasking on the internet and using our electronic servants like smartphones and the iPad.
I am not here to argue against the advantages of modern technology, only that some of us may need to make hard choice about limiting their use for our own emotional (and cognitive) well-being.
Maybe its OK not to get up and answer the text message right away … even multiple text messages. If emails are only answered at certain set hours of the day (say between 9 – 10 AM and between 3 – 4 PM–and no other–is that going to make your business and friendships go away?
And if you are working on a deadline for a project, is it possible you can avoid glancing at the news or hottest YouTube video for a while?
Research is increasingly suggesting that uninterrupted mental focus is best for creativity and sustained logical thinking. Multitasking is entertaining and a little bit addictive, but how does your blood pressure and memory fare on a steady diet of mental ping pong?
Does stress increase your nervous tension and feelings of insecurity? Even if you like multitasking, does it have a downside?
II. Stop the Stimulants
Why are coffee and caffeinated beverages popular? Sugar and caffeine in their own way are stimulants. Aside from taste, we like the mild euphoria, the increased productivity, the zest they give us.
But stimulants can also increase the general level of anxiety, and in some of us, that may be a bit too much. If we are already prone to insecure feelings, such stimulants may push us over an edge. Best to cut back.
III. Improve Sleeping Habits
Are you more calm following a long and good night’s sleep or after a brief and fitful night’s sleep?
Our central nervous system seems to need sleep, but our frenzied attempts at productivity, our love of entertainment and our undisciplined choices tend to push sleeping hours later than is best for our long term well being.
Getting things done on time to get to bed early may seem self-indulgent, but the opposite is true, at least in the long run. Often we prolong the hours before bed by entertainment. That may help us relax, or it may stimulate us, depending. Often we eat a late night snack because we stay up a long time, and that not only gives us added strength to stay up longer, it also has an unfortunate effect on the quality of our sleep and on our weight.
An anxious person may not sleep well anyway. Early relaxation and improving the discipline of sleep habits may improve daytime feelings of insecurity.
IV. Add Things that Relax and Calm
Some of us who are chronically stressed or nervous may find some help in prescription drugs used for anxiety or depression. Or for those wishing to avoid many of the negative side effects of drugs, some vitamins, herbs, aromatherapy essential oils, or homeopathic remedies may be of some help.
Do not take both drugs and natural substances for feelings of insecurity before consulting your doctor, and especially so if you are a pregnant or nursing mother. And while adding calming substances may help, they should probably best be considered as occasional or temporary solutions used in conjunction with other things.
Regular exercise of all kinds tends to moderate anxieties. Yoga is one popular means of exercise used especially for its calming effects.
V. Identify the Negative, Practice the Positive
Knowing precisely the surface and underlying reasons for your insecurity feelings is often a first step in confronting and controlling the problems. Replacing the negative with a positive lifestyle choice may be part of your solution (like changing jobs).
Or very commonly, we feel insecure because of a pattern of self-sabotaging and irrational thoughts. Identifying these thoughts and replacing them with rational ones often helps control insecurity. Perhaps these positive rational thoughts can be written down in scripts and rehearsed deliberately until memorized, at which point the insecure person can use them at will to get through especially nervous periods and in time retrain the emotions.
A common final goal of controlling feelings of insecurity is facing them squarely and acting in a reasonable and planned fashion through the feelings toward success. Repeated success encourages the mind and cuts the power of anxiety.
David J. Phelps – About the Author:
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Have you ever considered that every time you worry or become angry with someone or something, that you are wasting away that precious gift called life. It is a sad fact that most of the population of the world waste a great deal of their lives on negative emotions that serve no purpose. Financial concerns are one of the major emotions that cause great suffering to humanity; but in the same token, other emotions are just as destructive. Your negative emotions are also the catalyst to illness – believe me, I know, and like you, I am trying to get to grips with a modicum of control – my emotions. But before we can get into the ins and outs of dealing with your emotions. Let me show you how much time that we waste.
If we say that you are worried 3 days out of a week, that’s 48 hours and 2,496 hours in a year, which is 208 days. Quite a wastage, don’t you think? Now if you harbor anger with someone for no particular reason or because you have judged the person wrongly, this would mean that you would keep that negative emotion within you all day. I will forget the time you sleep and calculate this at 4,368 hours in a year, which equates to 364 wasted days. I could continue to show you that each negative emotion you employ within yourself – could in fact waste most of your precious hours in your life that you can be more positive and productive. Now imagine how many hours of negative energy that work its cancer into your own energy field. Perhaps this would serve as a hypothesis for why negative emotion can be the catalyst to disease within the physical body.
The first step to dealing with this, is awareness and mindfulness. You have to be aware of the emotion in the first place and find its root cause. Mindfulness can be the tool to recognizing the power of awareness and allowing the positive energy to induce the positive changes that are necessary. If you suffer from anger, resentment, jealousy or any of the other negative emotions. You can take the time to recognize them, and in a mindful way, say that you are aware but these emotions do not serve your higher purpose and allow them to leave with love and compassion. This energy of the spirit will surely work its way into the physical manifestation of positivity within your personal life, which in turn will affect others In a positive way. In a sense, it is rather like throwing a pebble into a pond to create a positive ripple, which will, in time, be carried throughout the whole pond. So you see how you may positively affect yourself and those around you.
I think it was the Buddha who said that “if you can change what you have done, then do not worry about it, and if you cannot change the circumstance or what you have done, then don’t worry about it.” From this statement, you might deduce that worry is something you should not worry about, which seems quite paradoxical I suppose. We do waste our lives worrying about frivolous things or things we cannot change – so what’s the point. It is of course not easy to control the negativity in an instant, and this is a work in progress but each step becomes a step closer to peace and happiness.
Become aware of suffering
The truth is that we all suffer, in different ways, but we all suffer nonetheless. Anyone who is negative towards you Is suffering. The way that you suffer is caused by yourself allowing your suffering to take hold. You can change others suffering but showing love, compassion and understanding and perhaps that will help the one who is suffering to show the same. In this way, we help each other to end suffering. No one deserves to suffer and those who judge are already suffering from negative emotion. If you do not wish to end up in an early grave, you should become aware of your emotions and your suffering as well as others. Each step in a positive direction is a step towards enlightenment.
Jock Brocas is a professional Psychic Medium who was natural from birth yet developed later in life. Jock has dedicated his later years to his own spiritual development and the professional development of his psychic and mediumship gifts. Being a professional Psychic Medium is very rewarding but also has its inherent problems. Nevertheless, Jock believes in the sanctity of mediumship and takes his work as a psychic medium very seriously.
Jock is known for giving irrefutable evidence and some of which can be validated much later. Jock is passionate about the science of psychic mediumship and works closely with many professionals in this field. He does not give general information that some psychics throw out and prefers the protocol of scientifically controlled telephone appointments. Jock very rarely gives psychic readings face-to-face unless pre booked.
Jock developed his psychic gifts and mediumship later in life when he was visited by a spirit. At first, this visitation shocked him and terrified him, which led him into the true vocation he was here for, a psychic medium’s life. He learned from his past and recognized that he was being groomed to work for spirit all his life – from growing up with spiritual leaders and spending time with religious communities – the path was being prepared. He is also a trained vocalist and is currently working on an Album to be released at some point in the future.
Jock Brocas (Psychic Medium) has studied many martial arts in the past and dedicated his later years to the study of Budo. He has amalgamated what he has learned in Budo and as a psychic medium to help change individuals lives for the better.
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Depression is broken down into many categories in these troubled times by doctors and researchers, but the sad truth is that regular old rainy day depression can hit anyone at just about anytime. Nothing can ruin a good day faster than some bad news that throws you for a loop. Anger and frustration can also trigger bouts of anxiety and depression and one of the best ways to battle this type of malaise is through some form of spiritual encouragement. Spiritual encouragement comes in all forms these days. We as human beings seem to get great comfort in beginning to understand the essense of who we are, on all levels. Whatever brings you closer to spiritual enlightenment and gives you peace of mind and heartis alright. Remember that faith and spirituality is a deeply personal and emotional thing so make sure you discover the true essence your way.
Many people find spiritual understanding through workshops and reading great books like the tenth insight or living in the now or through specific temples like the followers of the Telos lemurian teachings. Generally we only begin to turn our attention inwards when things aren’t goining the way we want, usually a relationship breakdown, financial disharmony or injury brings people looking for more in life. Being together with loved ones usually helps but often times it is the tenderness and surprising kindness of total strangers that is the most impactful. Some say we have spent many lives on this planet and through reconnecting with our family from other life times brings great joy to us. We see the best characteristics of people when they are peacefully trying to comfort someone else or when they are praising their inner God or when they are praying together for a common good.
Belief in ourselves in rare and generally not encouraged in this hyper-competitive world that we live in . Even when we do a great job or have a unique talent, which we all do have, we can end up doubting ourselves and that can be one of the most frustrating, confusing, and depressing things we can do. Mixing with people on the journey of enlightenment or ascension can be quiet rewardingf for someone with low self esteem.
My lemurian friends swear by the seven sacred flames and the teachings in the telos books, channelled by Auriella Jones, will transform your life in incredible and positive ways. Most forms of spiritual evolution is a discipline of turning your attention inwards and taking responsibility for our lives and stop the constant projection and control we place on others. By adopting this philosophy we take back our lives and if we created then we can change it. My Lemurian friends generally are all very positive individuals with very successful lives in general and they all say that taking responsibility and emotional healing has been the key to their success in all aspects of life.
Whether it is using the seven sacred flames or transcendental meditation, we need to have the quiet time to for reflection and contemplation to give ourselves a chance to block out the constant chattering dialogue of the mind. When you are able to do this on a consistent basis you will feel closer to your own spirituality than you have ever been.
See Telos Australia for more info about Lemuria and ascension
Lloyd – About the Author:
Lloyd has been studying human evolution in spirituality and energetic work for over 20 years. He has found the Telos-Australia teachings to be profound in their simplicity and ease to follow.
If coming from truth and living in openness and fullness is your yearning and you want to end the constant run around then click on ascension in 2012
What is a true friend?
Are true friends hard to find? What makes friends special?
We all have friends and many of us appreciate friendship. We all need to have true friends and many of us do have close and best friends, but let me ask you what makes a friend a true friend? What separates a true friend from an acquaintance?
Friendship is one of the most important relationships that we develop in our lives. While it might be easy to make friends, it could be difficult to find friends who would be true to the friendship during the hardships that we encounter in life. Despite the fact that we all have parents and relatives, yet many people rely on friends for spending time together.
John and Mike grew up together and have been best friends since childhood in the country side. One day, after returning from school, they got into heated debate about politics. Suddenly after the debate got heated, in a moment of anger, John slapped Mike. Mike stared at his friend, then wrote on sand “Today my best friend slapped me.” They resumed walking. When they wanted to cross the river, which was overflowing, Mike fell in the water. John without thinking about it, helped Mike get out of the water. Then, Mike wrote on a rock, “My best friend rescued me.”
John couldn’t understand what Mike was doing, so he asked Mike why he wrote on the sand when he slapped him and wrote on the rock when he saved him? Mike explained that true friend should forget the wrong doings done by their friends and always remember the positive which is exactly what he did.
Characteristics of a true friend
To learn about the characteristics of a true friend, read the quick guide below:
1. Wants the best for you
A true friend wishes you the best all the time. If he finds you that you are succeeding in life and achieving your goals, he will support you.
2. Supports you
If you are experiencing difficult circumstances, you will find the true friend tries his best to reduce your pain and brings you out of your current emotional state.
A true friend is the one who is honest with you. If you ask him for your help, he will not say what pleases you, he will say what he thinks it is in your best interest. The true friend gives you advice that will support you, helps you, and that makes you move forward in a positive way.
4. Doesn’t judge you
A true friend supports you all the time. He accepts you the way you are and doesn’t try to change you. He accepts your personality the way it is with your positive and negative qualities.
5. Listens to you
There are friends who stay with you when everything is going well, but when you experience a hardship, they disappear and don’t lend you a hand in your adversity. A true friend on the contrary is the one you find in those hard times lending you a hand.
6. Makes you part of his life
A true friend introduces you to his friends and family and makes you part of his family. You are a blessing in his life.
7. Keeps your secret
A true friend keeps your secrets and weaknesses. He doesn’t reveal your secrets or blackmail you. Respecting your privacy is one of your friend’s goals. He doesn’t gossip about you in front of others.
Always remember, “Who finds a faithful friend, finds a treasure.”
Dia Thabet – About the Author:
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