In order to truly live your life to the fullest, you have to let go of fear. As humans, our ability to fear has no doubt aided us in our survival for thousands of years, but at the same time it has held us back from living the life of our dreams. This is the duality of nature and one of the great challenges of existing in the human body. Our spirit or soul is inherently free, everlasting and divine. At the very core of the soul, I believe it is our nature to be peaceful, loving and creative entities. What holds back this peace, love and creativity is often fear. Fear of hate, fear of violence and destruction, fear of rejection, fear of others and their unknown agendas, fear of failure. Fear is an ugly symptom of being human. It is a by product of the ego. The ego has had it’s purpose on Earth and in humans. It has helped us to survive. The ego does not want to die as it can only exist in this human body. It creates fear as a necessary tool for survival. Fear can hold us back from parachuting out of an airplane, but it can also hold us back from living out our true nature and true desires.
Fear can have many different faces and you can find it in many different places. Many people, including myself, have been drowned in a sea of “what if’s” which can easily cloud the mind and seemingly destroying the creative, loving and peaceful nature of our souls. Think about it for a moment. How has fear stopped you from achieving your dreams and goals? What would you do if you had nothing to fear, if you assumed that you would only be rewarded for pursuing your heart’s desires?
One of the most difficult things about fear is that it is a feeling that carries low vibrations. When your mind is focused on fear, it is zeroing in on that negative level of frequencies and everything at that same vibration level. Feelings like indecision and doubt, also comes into focus. Think about when a person says “I get bad vibes from that guy”. You are literally feeling their negativity and the lower vibration of all of their thoughts and feelings. Sometimes it is oppressive to be around people like that and you may literally find yourself feeling sick around someone who is completely focused on their fears and worries.
The law of attraction is coming into play here. Now let’s focus on the polar opposite. Think about when you encounter that person who doesn’t seem to have a care in the world, maybe it’s a child that you know who is still fresh from the other side and still carrying the higher vibrations that are the true nature of our spirit. Maybe it’s a coworker or friend or even your boss. They always seem to be smiling, they always see the brighter side to life and they seem to have it all. Nothing ever seems to get them down or get in their way. In fact, they may make it look easy, almost as if everything was simply handed to them. You may find yourself jealous of their success, assuming they’ve gotten a free ride in life. In reality, it’s far from the truth.
When we are consumed with these fears and feelings along the lower vibrations, it’s almost as if you are seeing life through distorted goggles. From your perspective, it is hard to see all of the hard work and the persistence that was surely a large part of the successful person’s life. They make it look so easy.
One of the reasons they make it look so easy is they have let go of their fears and simply trust and know that they will be successful and happy. When you can stop worrying about what will happen if you fail or what will happen if you are rejected or what will happen if you aren’t good enough, your mind does a marvelous thing. It stops focusing on the negative! When you give your mind that break, that freedom, the true divine creativity within you can shine. When you know that no matter what, everything will be okay and everything will work out, you can start focusing on your goals and start pursuing your passion in life. You suddenly become free of the grips of fear and you are able to get to work and start doing what needs to be done in order to achieve your goals.
So how do you conquer your fears? How can you tell yourself everything will be okay and you have nothing to fear when there is that nagging voice in the back of your head saying, “yes, you do dummy, you have everything to fear!”? Well, there are a number of ways to combat fear, actually.
Most importantly, you have to start with a positive mind set. It will take time and you will often have to remind yourself, almost constantly at first, to stay positive and focus on the great life that you know you deserve. As I’ve mentioned in other posts, you have to write it down. How can you constantly remind yourself of something if you don’t have it clearly defined? Write it down along with any steps and actions you know you can take each day that will help you achieve your goals. Read this list every day, before you get out of bed and before you go to sleep at night. This will help to keep you focused.
One simple thing that has helped me is a positive affirmation bracelet. If you obtain a bracelet with positive affirmations on it, every time you feel yourself slipping back into your fearful mindset, you can feel the bracelet, read what’s written on it and bring your mind back into focus. You can even make your own positive affirmation bracelet through one of the many online businesses out there that make custom rubber bracelets or you can make one out of beads that spell out your positive thoughts and feelings.
Another great way to keep those higher vibration thoughts present and dominating is to carry a quartz crystal with you. Quartz carries some of the highest vibrations on Earth and is known to amplify thoughts and feelings. You can charge your very own quartz crystal with positive affirmations, feelings and thoughts by meditating each day with your crystal. Carry it with you to help you amplify those feelings squashing any fear and negativity.
You may be reading this and part of you may be agreeing with what you are reading only to find that voice in the back of your head still saying negative things to you, doubting that any of this could possibly help you. It is very difficult to retrain the subconscious mind which is constantly bombarding you with the thoughts and feelings that were allowed free reign for so long. You must focus on the positive and learn to retrain that voice, this is where persistence will pay off. If you are persistent and learn to quiet that voice, over time, you will find it slowly fading away allowing the positive thoughts and feelings to take over your mind.
One of my favorite ways to find comfort and really let go of fear is to read about near death experiences and past life regressions. Almost all near death experiences and past life regressions carry the same positive story that can help to sooth even those who seem helplessly consumed with their greatest fear of the unknown. Why am I here? What should I be doing with my life? What happens after this? Is there life after death? Should I be doing more with my life? If so, what should I be doing? How will I know what’s right? These are great questions to ask, but only if you seek and find the answer. If you let the fear of the unknown take over, you will never progress and find your true purpose in this life.
These types of thoughts and feelings can stop a person dead in their tracks. They can become so consumed by the fear of death that they forget to actually live! By reading and listening to people’s experiences with near death and past life regression you can come to a greater understanding of why we are here and what your true purpose is. The greatest thing that can happen by learning about these experiences is you will come to the understanding that you are an eternal, divine, loving being that has no end. You will come to the realization that yes, you have done this before, many times before (ever heard of deja vu?) and you will continue to reincarnate until you progress further and further along in the spirit world. You will come to realize that you never really stop learning both here on Earth and in the afterlife.
Earth will begin to look like one big school, where we act out a play that is interconnected with every other spirit incarnated on this planet. You may come to understand that we are all working towards balancing our true divine spirit within the human body. The ultimate goal may be heaven on Earth with every individual coming to the realization that they can let go of their ego, let their true loving divine spirit exist in full in the human body. If we can let go of fear, we can do it. If we let go of fear, we can accomplish anything we desire.
There can be great comfort in knowing that your essence goes on forever long after you’ve left this plane of existence. Just knowing that, can give assurance and help to ease the doubts that may cloud the mind. I know I don’t want to keep repeating the same mistakes I’ve made in life over and over again, one life after the next. I want to advance to the next level! When I find myself falling back into the grips of fear and feel the “what if”‘s coming on, I remind myself of this truly miraculous chance that we have here on this beautiful planet. I remind myself that I really have nothing to lose, if I fail, I will try again, if I fall, I will get up. It never really ever stops for us so you might as well keep going, keep your head up high and go for all that you dream of and desire.
Here is one last trick to help you to let go of all of your fears. A silly analogy, that often helps me, is to think of life as a video game. In a video game, you don’t have any fear because you are simply acting out your wishes and desires through the character of the game. If you die, you know you will start over. You also know the next time around you will have an easier time with that level as you’ve already learned quite a bit from your first crack at it. Life is very much the same way! We can’t remember our previous attempts, much like the character in the game that has no recollection of the previous death or previous attempts at completing that level in the game. In a video game, you wouldn’t sit and wait at the starting line afraid to move forward in case your character died trying. You just go for it. And you keep trying until you win. Having this type of perspective in life is very helpful in learning how to let go of your fears and accomplish what you actually came here for.
So when you feel fear stopping you in your tracks, remember this. You’ve been here before, you’ll be here again, your essence is eternal and it came here for a reason. So stop worrying and start living, and you will find your true purpose in this life.
Annie Amen – About the Author:
I hope that my thoughts and insights can inspire people and give them hope. In a world that is crowded with fear, poverty and suffering, I believe it is possible to rise above and live in a world of peace, love and abundance. I’ve gained knowledge through my own experiences that I hope can help others.
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