Is Your Soul Broken?

A broken soul is related to how you feel about yourself, your truest, deepest  and most honest beliefs; your philosophy about life; your original ideas and  sincerest thoughts, feelings, emotions and sense of what is right and wrong.  Your soul is who you are when no one is looking; where no one else can see. Your  outside persona includes your physical body, spoken and written words, habits,  actions and behaviors.

How can a person break their soul?

broken-heartEvery time you lie to yourself, go against your own sense of fairness,  compassion and integrity; fail to follow your dreams and utilize your gifts and  talents, hurt someone you love consciously or unconsciously you detach the  spiritual bond between your body and your soul. When you believe in one thing  and you act and behave in an opposite manner, you become an empty vessel, a  shell, a person without substance. Your physical body is alive, but it is hollow  and vacant because it lacks integrity and meaning. Many of today’s young  celebrities such as Lindsey Lohan, Paris Hilton, Brittany Spears, Nicole Richie  and even the late Anna Nicole Smith may have broken souls. These young, wealthy,  physically beautiful women have the outside appearance of prosperity, but their  actions and behaviors do not exemplify inner peace.

We live in a culture that tells us that when ever something is ailing us; we  can fix it with a psychotropic drug, weight  loss or cosmetic surgery. The  other portion of society tells us that we need to join organized religious  communities. None of these suggestions are wrong depending on the individual’s  personality and emotional needs; but it is essential and crucial that each  person learn to take an honest look within them selves to determine if they are  doing everything within their own power to their best of their ability to  promote health, wealth, peace, love and happiness in their own lives.

The only way that you can re-attach your soul to your body is by aligning  your thoughts, words and actions into one being.

Is a broken soul similar to a broken heart?

A broken heart can cause a broken soul when you continue to repeat the  patterns that caused your heart to break. For example, continuing to pick the  same type of guy without looking within yourself to analyze why you are  attracted to certain types of men. However, a broken soul does not typically  lead to broken heart because it is impossible to deeply care about others when  you don’t truly know, love or care about yourself.

Examples of Broken Souls

Scenario A: Fidelity

1. Beliefs, personal moral code of right & wrong, honest emotions /  feelings
You believe in fidelity. You want to be in a relationship with a  person whom you can trust.

2. Words, what you tell others orally or in writing.
You make a vow to be  faithful. You tell your mate that you are faithful.

3. Actions, behaviors, habits- What you do
You cheat on your mate.

Scenario B: Education

1. Beliefs, personal moral code of right & wrong, honest emotions /  feelings

You believe that education is important. You have always wanted to practice  law.

2. Words, what you tell others orally or in writing.

You tell everyone that you are going back to school to earn your degree.

3. Actions, behaviors, habits- What you do
You watch television and hang  out with friends in the evenings. You picked up an application once, but never  filled it out.

Scenario C: Following your Dreams

1. Beliefs, personal moral code of right & wrong, honest emotions /  feelings
You feel happiest when you are singing, dancing or involved in any  type of performance. You love music with every cell of your heart, mind and  body. People tell you that you are talented and gifted as a singer.

2. Words, what you tell others orally or in writing.
To impress your  parents, teachers and naysayers, you tell everyone that you are going to college  to be a doctor.

3. Actions, behaviors, habits- What you do
You are enrolled in a pre-med  program. You try to ignore the pain in your stomach, your headaches and the deep  misery that you feel inside. You rationalize your unhappiness by telling  yourself that doctors make good money and  your family will be so proud of you.

Scenario D: Being true to yourself

1. Beliefs, personal moral code of right & wrong, honest emotions /  feelings

You love to write.

2. Words, what you tell others orally or in writing.

You tell every one about the book you are going to write some day.

3. Actions, behaviors, habits- What you do
You never write because you  are tired when you get home from work and exhausted from the daily demands of  taking care of your family.

Scenario E: Being true to yourself

1. Beliefs, personal moral code of right & wrong, honest emotions /  feelings

You want to lose weight to improve your health.

2. Words, what you tell others orally or in writing.

You tell every one that you are on a diet.

3. Actions, behaviors, habits- What you do
You don’t exercise. You make  unhealthy food choices.

Scenario F: Having Faith

1. Beliefs, personal moral code of right & wrong, honest emotions /  feelings
In your heart and spirit, you believe in God, a Superior Being or a  Higher Power bigger than yourself. You feel that your deepest dreams, desires,  wants and needs will manifest in your life.

2. Words, what you tell others orally or in writing.
You tell everyone  about your amazing faith, trust and belief in God or a Higher Power. You tell  other people to have faith and believe.

3. Actions, behaviors, habits- What you do
You cry yourself to sleep each  night because you are worried about your bills being paid and how you are going  to provide for your family. You haven’t looked for a new job, or started your  own business because people say, “the economy is bad.”

If you do an honest assessment of what is really bothering you and all of the  things that you can start doing at this very moment to change your life, you  will begin to heal your soul. Guaranteed.

10 Signs of a Broken Soul

1. You have a drinking or substance abuse problem.

2. You have been depressed for more than 6 weeks

3. You feel no enjoyment for life.

4. You are in a sexually, physically or psychologically abusive  relationship.

5. You are actively involved in criminal or illegal activity.

6. You have reoccurring suicidal thoughts

7. You have an eating disorder

8. You are abusing someone else physically, psychologically or sexually.

9. You are not doing anything productive with your time.

10. You constantly complain about hating yourself or your life.

Techniques to heal a Broken Soul

1. Validate yourself. Start exactly where you are. Call your self beautiful.  Start your business. Do not seek external validation from any one.

2. Go on a journey of self-exploration. What is your favorite color, food,  song, movie, day of the week, holiday. Everything that you love is a clue to the  mystery of who you are. The things that you love are internal pieces that create  the external picture of who you are.

3. Forgive everything and everybody. No exceptions.

4. Practice random acts of kindness. Put a dime in an expired parking meter.  Pay for someone’s breakfast, dinner or lunch without revealing yourself. Put  toilet paper in a public restroom for the next person. Shovel someone’s snow or  rake their leaves without them knowing who did it. Leave a tip on some else’s  table. Find unique ways to put a smile on other people’s faces. Their smiles  will make you smile.

5. Ask for forgiveness–it doesn’t matter if they accept your apology. This  gives them the opportunity to heal when they are ready.
Forgive yourself for  past mistakes.

6. Write a letter of forgiveness to yourself. Read the self-forgiveness  letter to yourself each night until you are able to let go. You can’t forgive  yourself until you are emotionally ready to forgive yourself.

7. Give yourself 6 months to make one change. Don’t try to change too many  things about yourself at one time; this is overwhelming. If you try to stop smoking, don’t include losing 50 lbs, and find  a cure for cancer. Take it slow and steady.

8. Watch Shawshank Redemption, the Pursuit of Happyness or any other movie  that gives you hope.

9. Find one thing that you absolutely love about yourself and think about it  once a day, all day long.

Author: Cassandra George Sturges MA, MA, Psy.D

Cassandra George Sturges MA, MA, Psy.D is a mother of two teenagers, a  full-time psychology instructor, advice columnists for Today’s Black Woman  Magazine, Seminar facilitator, author of “A Woman’s Soul on Paper” ISBN:  0595171435. Dr. Sturges is the author and publisher of Authentik Beauty  Magazine. A 1 year subscription to Authentik Beauty Magazine is only $49.99 for  6 issues; mail request to: Authentik Beauty Magazine, P.O. Box 980679,  Ypsilanti, MI 48197. Caution: Articles and clip art are sensuously and  beautifully designed for a mature audience only. We accept cash, checks &  all major credit cards. Http://authentikbeauty.blogspot.com

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  1. #1 by Warren Davis on August 13, 2011 - 01:30

    I find meditation helps to keep my mind, body and spirit in harmony with each other.

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