Do you feel sometimes as being in the middle of a desert? When you started you had a clear vision of your goals, but now you don’t know any more whether you are going in a right direction, you have begun to fear, worry and doubt. This is usually the moment we leave the right path and start going around in circles. I was once doing my research in the Middle East and took a taxi to go somewhere, but my taxi driver didn’t have faith in me, and every time I asked him to go straight, he turned right or left. Thus, I wasted lot of time driving around in circles until he decided to trust me and we reached our destination. Worry and fear cause doubt which is the biggest reason of all the failures in our lives. Our confidence is cut off when we are fearful and worried.
Robert Anthony says that “self-confidence is the inner feeling of certainty”. Brian Tracy states that successful people act in spite of fear, while unsuccessful people let fear stop them, because successful people are self-confident and they move intuitively in the right direction. Self-confidence is not just a self-confident look on your face, acting like you are better than others. It is your inner guidance and peace of mind. It simply means having faith in oneself. Self-confidence gives us energy to create our dreams. Steve G. Jones says that our lives are shaped by decisions that we make and the decision to act is fueled by confidence. If you want to land at your dream job but lack the confidence to make the decision to act in a way that would bring you closer to your goals, you will probably wind up without achieving your goal. Confidence is a resource which is both invaluable and essential toward the achievement of any goal.
We often let worry take over our lives, as worry is almost our God. Atkinson says that “a man may worry himself to death and yet nothing will be accomplished, but when he transmutes his worry and discontent into desire and belief, then something happens.” Rev. Christopher Ian Chenoweth compares worrying to being in a rocking chair. You are rocking back and forth, back and forth – you feel like you are doing something, but you are not getting anywhere. You are just mentally and physically tiring yourself out. Thinking about all the things that could be wrong or go wrong doesn’t make your life any more controllable or safer. Mark Twain said once: “I’ve suffered a great many catastrophes in my life. Most of them never happened”. 99% of what we worry about, never come to pass. Worry can never accomplish anything. Worry is negative and destructive. William Walker Atkinson claims in his book “Thought Vibration Or the Law of Attraction in the Thought World” that worry is the child of fear – if you kill out fear, worry will die for want of nourishment.
The act of worrying is using your imagination and emotion to create something you do not want. If you are in a situation where you haven’t got any results in achieving your goals, and you start to question and doubt, you are moving away from your goals. Joseph Murphy states that our subconscious mind creates our reality through the pictures we accept and hold. If you have been doing affirmations over a period of years and still getting nowhere, it would be wise to look inwardly at the pictures that you have been holding about yourself. If you are not sure, if you doubt, then it will not come to pass, because the messages you send to your subconscious mind are controversial and you sabotage your goals. That is why we fail to manifest what we want.
Brad Yates provides an example how contradictory thoughts influence our manifestation. If we imagine ourselves going to a restaurant and ordering a hamburger, but immediately as the waiter walks away, you say, “I really shouldn’t have that. Maybe I should order a salad. Or maybe I should have a sandwich.” The waiter stands there waiting for you to make up your mind, and you wonder why you don’t have your hamburger yet. Our subconscious mind is like this waiter, he can’t serve us if we send contradictory signals to it. Some people try visualizing and affirming what they want for a moment, but then they spend the rest of the time undoing this creation by worrying and doubting. Joseph Murphy reminds us that when our desires and imagination are in conflict, our imagination invariably wins. Ron Holland confirms it in his book “Eureka Enigma” by saying that when the words and the pictures are in conflict it is always the pictures that win.
Rev. Chenoweth advises to say to yourself: “The worry stops here!” You must do it at the moment when you feel worried, not later. Focus only on what you desire. Do not focus on your fear of not achieving your goal. If you doubt it, then it will not come to pass. Chenoweth says that if we see our problem as a heavy rope, it seems to be strong and unbreakable. And yet this rope is made of individual strands. If you would take it apart, it would be easy to break these strands even with bare hands. If you stop worrying and trying too hard to get solutions consciously, your subconscious mind will solve problems for you, and you start to move intuitively in the right direction. You have to shift your awareness to your desired reality in order to draw it into manifestation. The key is to feel comfortable with thinking, talking and acting in a state where your desire is already a reality. This means that you must relax and release all stress related to achieving your goal. You have the power to bring yourself into harmony with who you really are – a being that has infinite possibilities of experiencing great success in life.
Ulrica R.Richmond – About the Author:
Ulrica R. Richmond produces articles on the power of your mind that can help you succeed in business and in everyday life. Read more how to overcome fear and worry , increase you self worth, discover your inner voice and attract a positive confident energy into your life by visiting this website! http://millionairemind.weebly.com/self-confidence.html
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