The Powers of a Positive Mental Attitude

If you were to write down you thoughts for the next hour would most of them  be positive or negative? How do you know if your thoughts are positive or  negative? Do you have motivational thoughts, thoughts full of gratitude for what  you have and what is coming your way, or are your thoughts full of what you lack  or would like to have but don’t?

positive-mental-attitudeNow let’s say you are taking a walk  down the street with these thoughts you wrote down. Do you think anyone you meet  would be able to tell you what’s on your mind?

While the answer to the  questions in paragraph one are entirely up to you, the answer to the question in  paragraph two is yes. People can tell what’s on your mind. Although they won’t  be able to tell exactly what you are thinking about, they will have a good idea  of how you are feeling. They can tell if your mind is wandering in a positive or  a negative direction.

Let me ask you this, when you enter a party filled  with friends and people you know, do they all fall silent as if something  terrible had happened? Or does everybody there perk up as if waiting for  something exciting to happen?

You know what? Unless you forgot to bathe  for a week the answer to these two questions depends almost entirely on your  frame of mind.

Earl Nightingale, the late Dean of Personal development was fond of saying “Thoughts are  things.” I believe him. Thoughts are very powerful. They affect your attitude,  your beliefs and the way you carry yourself. Your attitude reflects in your  appearance, your face, your smile your eyes. Yes, people can read your mind, or  at least what your body is telling them about what’s in your mind.

The  problem is that it doesn’t end there. Your attitude will also affect the people  around you. It will affect how people react to you, whether they want to help  you or not.

The great thing is that you are in control! The type of  attitude you carry depends on you. You can decide to have a positive or negative  attitude.

When you have a positive mental attitude your thoughts will  lift you up. They will fill your mind with possibilities. Motivational thoughts  are invigorating and can spur you into action. An added  bonus is that the people around you will be energized by your attitude. That’s  the power of a positive mental attitude.

Negative thoughts on the other  hand have a power sapping effect on other people. They are like an energy vacuum  that sucks the vitality from everyone around them. In addition to making you  look dumpy and gloomy, negative thoughts can turn a festive gathering into a  funeral wake.

Think of your attitude like a magnet. If you have a  positive mental attitude you attract people, while if you have a negative  attitude you repel them. Unless they are in the mental health profession or just  like pain, people tend to shy away from those who carry a negative attitude  around with them.     

Your attitude  defines your focus. For example, if you choose to focus on the negative things  in the world, watch the news and listen to the latest gossip, you are developing  a negative attitude. However, if you choose to focus on the positive things, on  things that are going well in your life and the world at large, then you are  developing positive mental attitude.

You have much to gain from  developing a positive mental attitude. For one, studies have shown that a  positive mental attitude promotes better health. These same studies go on to  point out that this is probably because these people generally have less stress.  That’s because they are focusing on solutions and what they want and not being  frustrated so often!

Studies show that those people with a positive  mental attitude also have more friends. Well duh. Who do you want to be around?  Someone who always has something good to say or someone who is always telling  you the sky is falling and the world’s going to hell in a hand basket?

A  positive mental attitude begins with a healthy self-image. If you love the way  you are and are satisfied, confident, and self-assured, you also make others  around you feel the same way.

On the other hand, a negative attitude has  an opposite effect, and a negative attitude carries a double whammy with it.  First you feel bad about yourself. Second you make people around you feel the  same way.

If you want to develop a positive mental attitude, you have to  focus on motivational thoughts, thoughts that will empower you. If you watch the  news constantly this can be very difficult. That’s because the media feeds us  nothing but negative thoughts. You want to know how to change this? Don’t watch  the news! The world will still survive and you won’t be filling your mind will  all that negative junk!

One study showed that for every 14 things a  parent says to his or her child, only one is positive. This is truly a saddening  thought. But you can change this. Start to examine what you say to your child  and make it a point to be what Zig Ziglar calls a “good finder.” Find the good  your child does and tell them about it.

If you want a healthier outlook  on life, you’ll want to begin to program your mind for success. You’ll want to  hear positive things as well. So, what can you do? Well, an easy one would be to  watch a funny movie.  Some other things might be playing with children or  spending time telling jokes with friends. Read the biography of someone you  admire or a rags to riches story. All these activities will fill you with  positive stimuli, which will in turn promote a positive mental  attitude.

Although it is impossible to shield yourself from all the  negative influences around you, you can still maintain a positive mental  attitude by focusing on the good things, the positive things in your life. One  of the ways that works well for me is through positive visualization, using self hypnosis to help me recognize and  focus on the positive things that are happening to me.

The development  of your positive mental attitude will benefit others also. You want to be of  help to somebody feeling down? When someone comes to you with a problem, instead  of giving them advice, like we all like to do, just sit and listen to them. Your  positive mental attitude may be able to cheer them up without even having to say  a word.

Here’s a great question, if a positive mental attitude is really  so great, why do people choose to adopt a negative attitude instead? I believe  that it is a learned trait. We have been taught since we were small children  that negatives will get the attention of our parents and teachers. So as adults  our negative attitude may be actually a signal for attention. Now this is not to  say that emotions like feeling sad, angry, or gloomy are wrong. These emotions  are the expression of our experiences. But dwelling on these emotions for far  too long is not healthy. The thing is to recognize them for what they are and  move on. Life is much too short to stay stuck in such a bad state.

While  my dear friend K. Lee Kappmeier was suffering from stage IV colon cancer she taught me an invaluable lesson. She taught  me that no matter what the trouble, no matter how dark the hour we need to focus  on the good things in life. We need to focus on what we want our lives to be, on  what we want to do and accomplish. Until the very end she had hope that she  would overcome her illness and, as a result, she accomplished as much in her two  years of illness as many people accomplish in their lifetimes.

Focusing  on the good will give you hope, just like it did for K. Lee. It may not lengthen  your life, but it will definitely make what life you have sweeter and more  enjoyable.

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by adopting a  healthy, positive mental attitude. Studies show that such an attitude actually  retards aging, makes you healthier, helps you develop better stress coping  skills, and has a very positive effect on all the people you meet every day.

So, why not develop a positive mental attitude? It will help your  problems become puzzles, things to be solved and overcome. Your life will be  brighter and more full of energy. It will make every day a joy that you can be  grateful for.

Wil  Dieck –    About the Author:

Wil Dieck is the founder of Total Mind Therapy and author of an e-Course “Boost Your Positive Mental Attitude“ that you can have at absolutely no charge.  Drop by http://www.totalmindtherapy.net/  for your copy today.

 

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  1. #1 by lee du ploy on November 19, 2011 - 03:58

    The assumption may not be true.

    I live and work in Hong Kong and recently wrote a book which deals with positve assertations,the basis on which we make decisions which is integral and ingrained in our pschyce , however the ‘malnubleness” of thoughts are through translations.

    Dealing with people as I do who suffer from extreme forms of anxiety which is manifested in procrastination ,and as a consequince negative assumption, its difficult for them to see through the forrest because the treess are the way( can’t see the wood for the trees)

    As we know circumstance dictate choice,so its vital to change perception of the problem, which in turn can lead to a positive change of attitude

    Like a good purveyor of property to whom location, location is everything…here attitude, attitude is everything.

    lee du ploy (hong kong)

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