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Intuition ~ an Intuitive’s View

In these days of burgeoning interest in all topics metaphysic, intuition and psychic phenomena have piqued the curiosity of many. Indeed, we have all, by and large, been fascinated by accounts of experiences involving psi (that elusive “x” factor that causes psychic phenomena), usually assuming that these phenomena belong to a realm out-of-the-ordinary and are not within the daily purview of most of us “common folk.”

albert-einstein-intuitionAs one who has delved more and more deeply into the world of intuition as a practicing intuitive, albeit somewhat unintentionally, I would like to share some of the things I’ve learned about these interest-provoking, yet little understood phenomena. I say “albeit somewhat unintentionally” because I did not set out years ago to have this as a career goal: it was not what I majored in in college nor something I had ever seen myself doing. However, at the same time, being somewhat of a “reluctant” intuitive has given me an interesting perspective on this often misperceived topic as I had to develop and work with a faculty I didn’t even know was there.

I think what most of us do is to assume that intuitive/psychic phenomena are something that other people experience (and I’ll use these terms interchangeably in this article to refer to informational phenomena, rather than other forms involving psychokinesis, teleportation, etc.). One thing (of the many) that I’ve learned from doing this work is that everyone is intuitive and can have “psychic experiences.” Intuition is democratic; it really is everyone’s birthright.

I’ve also learned that what I used to consider as other-worldly really is a very natural part of life. Intuition and psychic knowing are actually another form of intelligence, another way of knowing and apprehending. For those who are interested in developing and using their full mental and knowing potential, developing and using their intuition is essential. However, one flip side of this aspect of intuition is that, because intuition really is a form of intelligence, it is not always connected to spirituality. We have often assumed that intuitives, just because they are intuitive, are spiritually oriented; this ain’t necessarily so! As an ability, it can be used for good or ill, just like anything else.

Consider, for example, the reports of psychics who tell vulnerable clients that they have a curse on them and they can remove it for some exorbitant fee. Although this sort of misuse would appear to be in the minority, the point is that spirituality is not always a correlate of psychic ability nor, conversely, is psychic ability necessarily a portal to mystical wisdom and higher knowing. When the two are combined, however, ah, now that’s a beautiful thing! But I’m digressing….

One fascinating aspect of intuition is that it can come in many different forms and, just as I am convinced that everyone has intuitive ability, so too have I learned that the form it can take can vary greatly from one person to another.

I always assumed that intuitive or psychic information came in the form of sudden, strong awareness, almost like being hit by information, and, indeed, some people do get information like this. Intuitive insights can also be very subtle — a sense or feeling or impression about something. And some people simply have a knowing about things; this knowing can be so deep that it will often be there with no effort, as if by osmosis, a knowing that is deeply integrated and ingrained and may just come to conscious awareness at the appropriate time. One just knows — without knowing how one knows or when one came to know.

Aside from the strength or subtlety of these awarenesses, the form can vary greatly as well. Some people will see images or hear voices (either literally through the auditory faculties of their ears or in their heads or minds). Some may see or sense colors. Others may have an impression that does not come in the form of one of the five senses.

Some people are very sensitive to energy, whether it’s the energy of a place or location, people’s energy, geological or geothermal energy, nature energy, animal or plant energy, or even color or light energy. Some people are sensitive to the energy of objects, receiving information from holding them. This latter form is called psychometry and many forensic psychics who specialize in working with police on solving crimes work with this form.

The type of information that comes from intuition can also vary. We have all had mundane experiences where we think of a song right before it’s played on the radio or think of someone just before they call on the phone. Psychic information can come in the form of events — what is going to happen — whether trivial or significant. It can also come in the form of meaning, what the meaning or significance is of what someone is going through.

There are truly many variations on the forms and types of intuitive experiences and the information they may provide, as well as the way they come to people. I am often asked by clients how I receive my information and what form it comes in. It took me a long time to figure this out and to know how to respond, because I was not doing what I thought an intuitive did (or should do?). (I read people’s energy — directly experiencing it — on a level not usually associated with the body, receive information, and work to interpret it — usually in the form of a direct experiencing that is difficult to define, a sense, an impression, sometimes visual images, sometimes words or quotations, sometimes colors, etc. I am particularly sensitive to people’s and animals’ energy. And I also have a deeply seated knowing about things.) Some intuitives/psychics specialize in certain types of phenomena or information: some specialize in health, working as medical intuitives; some, in finding missing people or lost objects; some, in communicating with passed-on loved ones; some, in animal communication; etc. Some people directly access their information; others work with guides as intermediaries. The point I would like to make is that intuition/psychic informational experiences are a much richer, more complex, and diversified phenomena than most of us have realized and, because of their richness and complex beauty, are well deserving of our admiration as another of the universe’s creations and marvels.

We can all have one or more types of intuition in one or more forms. The information or content we get can run the gamut from the mundane to the divinely sublime. But we all usually have some form or forms of it, and, if we’re truly open and don’t put preconceived terms and self-imposed limitations on it, can receive many different types of information in different forms. The trick is to start to work with what we have (and may not even know that we have). Ofttimes someone will have an ability and just assume that everyone else does. For instance, a gifted healer I know has always been able to see people’s organs and assumed that everyone else had this trait.

It is in starting to work with what we have that we start to open up the treasure chest that we have been given in our lives. There are many benefits of doing this aside from the trivial and temporary side effects of wowing or entertaining ourselves or others, or of simply manipulating energy or playing psychic games. We can have many practical benefits in our lives with regard to information that can be helpful to us in a practical, quotidian fashion. For instance, we have all heard about people averting potential tragedy or catastrophe by heeding gut feelings or other intuitive information they received.

In addition and quite significantly, when we begin to tap into our own intuitive/psychic knowing ability, we begin to strengthen in ourselves. Once we begin to develop our own knowing, it is very powerful and deepening. No one can take that away from us. With knowing comes the beginning of understanding. And with understanding and insight can come wisdom if we are so open and so inclined.

There are many ways of starting to develop our innate gifts. There are several very good books on this subject that are available. I as well as others have taught workshops on this. One can just practice and feel one’s way along.

The key is to know how it works for us and also simply to believe that it is indeed there. We have to first acknowledge and own that we do, in fact, have some form(s) of intuitive ability. Once we figure out how ours manifests, we must honor our gifts and their form(s).

“One tricky little potential sticky point to using intuition/psychic ability is in learning to distinguish what is true knowing from what may be coming from our own “stuff” — our wants, needs, fears, mindsets, beliefs, etc. True intuition is not colored by emotional feelings; it is neutral, colorless. Nor is it filtered through our mindsets or cultural filters. If we get a feeling about something that is tinged with, for example, fear, it may just be coming from our own issues. Pure intuitive information is just that: pure, and uncontaminated by our “stuff.”

One reason why it may have been more difficult for us in our contemporary Western culture to work with our intuition, aside from the fact that it hasn’t been valued in our culture, is that it often works in a different way from our normally used and encouraged faculties. Intuition is receptive. It is a receiving of information, which is a different mode from that of our left-brain logical modes which are active as we analyze and probe. Instead of trying to figure things out intuitively (which doesn’t work because it’s a figurative oxymoron), we must instead receive information, paying attention to what comes. I am convinced that we all receive information all the time. It’s just that we aren’t trained or encouraged to pay attention to these subtleties. As a matter of fact, I am convinced that we are all spoken to all the time by this wonderful universe, if we are inclined to listen or pay attention to the signs we are given.

It is perhaps my own personal prejudice, but I also feel that the highest manifestations of intuition/psychic information come in a spiritual form and/or have spiritual relevance — that give us information for our own progress on our paths (or for others on their paths). I haven’t figured it all out yet, but I have a strong sense that the more we connect to the knowing place within ourselves, the more we also connect to the divine. And the more we consciously connect with the divine, the more true knowing we have.

We don’t have to become professional practicing intuitives or psychics to develop our potential and benefit from it. Intuition is real. It is a very natural part of life. And it can be yours if you desire for it to be. It can enrich your life, as well as that of others around you. And it is deserving of our respect, because it can serve a quite honorable purpose.

This article was first published in “Innerchange Magazine” in the February/March 1998 issue.

 – About the Author:

Diane Brandon is the Host of “Living Your Power” on the Health & Wellness Channel of VoiceAmerica.com, as well as an Intuition Teacher, Integrative Intuitive Counselor, and Speaker. She is the author of “Invisible Blueprints” and several articles on personal growth topics, as well as a contributing author to “Speaking Out” and “The Long Way Around: How 34 Women Found the Lives They Love.” Her private work with individuals focuses on personal growth, working with dreams, and personal empowerment, and she has done corporate seminars on intuition, creativity, and listening skills. More information may be found on her websites, http://www.dianebrandon.com and http://www.dianebrandon.net. She may be contacted at diane@dianebrandon.com.

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“A reason why we do not regard others as precious.

“A reason why we do not regard others as precious is that we pay great attention to their faults whilst ignoring their positive qualities.Unfortunately we have become very skilled in recognizing the faults of others, and we devote a great deal of mental energy to listing them, analyzing them, and even meditating on them!

And then spend time putting others down. With this critical attitude, if we disagree with our partner, Lover or colleagues about something, instead of trying to understand their point of view we repeatedly think of many reasons why we are right and they are wrong. By focusing exclusively on their faults and limitations we become angry and resentful, and rather than cherishing them we develop the wish to harm or discredit them. Read more >>>“A reason why we do not regard others as precious..

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How to soar into 2012!

The beginning of a new year is normally filled with talk about resolutions, how to make the best of 2012, set your goals, etc.. But before we can take on new tasks and goals, we need to clear out the clutter of 2011 and the years before that too. If you are really committed to being successful in every area of your life, you must start eliminating all the things you are tolerating, all the things that you put up with, the things you allow but dislike and disagree with!

soaringEagleMountainWe tend to get dragged down and overwhelmed by things that accumulate over time – and end up cluttering our minds. Now is the time to identify what you’re tolerating! Everything you tolerate drains your energy and the negative effect this has will continue to get worse. The advantages and benefits you will experience once you start to remove tolerations are huge! You will have more energy to spend on improving the quality of your life and you will notice you have more time, as you are not wasting time on managing situations which shouldn´t be there.

Remove the tolerations that make you sigh, the ones that drain your energy. Your aim is to make your environment energy giving and not energy draining. Removing all ¨your tolerations¨ will leave you feeling more energized, more empowered and productive and less overwhelmed. You will feel more focused and have more energy to achieve more in less time.

Besides increasing how much you can accomplish in less time and doubling your productivity, there are many advantages to this exercise. When we don´t put up with so many things we don´t want to, we raise our standards and our quality of life. We will also attract more opportunities because our energy levels will be focused upon what we want to achieve not on what we need to tolerate.

Unless we make changes, we will experience the same results over and over again. The benefits to permanently manage the things you put up with far prevail over any commitment you must make now to resolve them for good. Ask yourself why you are actually tolerating certain situations and what is the benefit or the fear behind allowing this to continue?

Target the tolerations
Start by thinking about a time when you put up with something or someone and you didn´t want to. Perhaps a situation which you knew in your heart was not good for you, it didn´t feel right. Be completely honest with yourself about what needs to go, what’s causing you stress, and what constantly drains you.

Types of tolerations
People Tolerations: We could be putting up with more than we like from other people. What situations can you be more assertive in and/or have open communication to deal with these tolerations. The key is to not build up resentment and anger against somebody, as this leads you to overreact or blow up eventually when you simply can´t put up with somebody anymore.

Health Tolerations: We tolerate our own unhealthy behavior when we don´t exercise, we eat junk and fast food and we gain weight. You are standing in the way of yourself and sometimes you can become your own worst enemy.

Work Tolerations: Having a messy or unorganized office. Not learning new skills and struggling over and again with the same resources you have, hoping for better results. Another big one is being distracted at work, by social media accounts, emails, etc or perhaps constantly being interrupted by colleagues, your boss, your mobile ringing, etc

Personal Tolerations or tolerations at Home: Having a messy cupboard, drawers filled with so much stuff you don´t even want to open it. Not fixing something or putting up with a semi-functioning device instead of taking time to fix it, for example.
We need to also differentiate between tolerations that are ¨soft¨, or easier to correct and tolerations that are ¨hard¨ or more difficult to correct. Below are some examples.

Easier tolerations
An email In-box that gets fuller and fuller every time you look at it
Having a filing system that is a mess and feeling disorganized on a daily basis
Not getting your car serviced – even though it needed to be looked at a month ago!
Time wasters (for example: how much time do you spend watching T.V. instead of doing something worthwhile.)

More difficult Tolerations
More difficult tolerations could be: lack of free time to enjoy yourself
Tolerating difficult relationships or problems because clear boundaries have not been established
Financial issues and a lack of month, increasing debt, etc

Steps to take
1.Write a list of all the tolerations (email me for a copy of the document).
This is an important first step as the process of writing our thoughts down, helps us to discover, identify and clarify our thoughts and feelings. It also is the first step in starting the process of controlling them.

2. Make a vision for yourself.
Picture what your life would be like without the tolerations anymore, think of all the things that will improve, see it in your mind’s eye. What more could you enjoy and accomplish in life?

3.Divide your list into ¨easy¨ and ¨difficult¨ tolerations.
The easy tasks will be quicker to eliminate and control will give you back your time and energy the quickest.

4.Select the tolerations you want to eliminate
I would suggest selecting 4 for the first week, two easier ones and two more difficult. You can do more as the weeks go one. Be realistic and don´t take on more than you know you can´t handle.

5.Make a plan to eliminate those tolerations, a plan of action, with deadlines as well. Take into consideration all you will need to accomplish this successfully. Create boundaries and decide what you will no longer accept. Ask yourself the following questions

– What limitations/boundaries do you need to set?
– What conversations will need to take place and with who?
– What resources must I locate to assist me in this change?
– If I have to tolerate this what is required of me to no longer feel
a drain on my time or energy?
– Do I need to lower or raise my standards in order to be free of
these tolerations?

6.Commit to this long term change
Commit, prepare and expect to deal with the obstacles and challenges you will face along the way. Have a plan so you are able to manage going forward. Also, how will you hold yourself accountable to make these changes and improve the quality of your life, perhaps partner with friend, spouse or even a Coach? Once you have eliminated all the tolerations, you will be in a better position to start setting goals now that the clutter has been cleared.

To Your Success!

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The Adventure That Is Life

I was the oldest of four boys, and after our father died, mother supported us by taking in sewing. We were quite poor. I got an afterschool job as the janitor in a factory; it was the only way I’d have any money.

what's-your-storyAfter a couple of years I got bored with that, so I beat the pavement to just about every business in our small Ontario town. I found a job hammering nails. The cut in pay from $.40 per hour to $.30 per hour was worth it for the new experience. Unfortunately, this was to be a short-lived adventure; my new boss found out I was only 13, and child labor laws kicked in. I went back to my afterschool sweeping and toilets and kept a low profile…

My mother had always wanted me to go to university, but she died in a car crash when I was 16. Nevertheless, the janitoring and summer jobs financed my big adventure of going off to university. I was the first from my mother’s side to do so.

I had come to realize by the time I was 12 that I could choose to look at my life as a series of crises: drowning and resuscitation, abduction and torture, abduction and sexual abuse, father dying, poverty, my teacher labeling me “slow.” Alternatively, I could choose to look at my life as a series of adventures: solo hiking and exploring, hitchhiking to Toronto to spend a week each year at the CNE, long bicycling adventures, building a boat and riding the spring floodwaters amidst the ice jams on the local river, learning to hunt with a 12-gauge shotgun. I chose adventure over crisis.

When you are confronted with a life event, you are given a choice as to how you interpret it. And let’s face it; life has its ups and downs.

A “down” could be a disaster like a marriage failure… or the opening for the adventure of remarriage. I’ve been blessed with that adventure twice.

Another not uncommon disaster is a job loss or business failure that leads to the loss of your hard-earned material possessions. However, losing our business, our house and our vehicles cut our material ties to the east and led to the adventure of starting over on the west coast. Without the business crash two decades ago, my adventures in writing might never have begun.

Family is one of life’s big adventures, and three of my adult children dying in the last five years have been tragic. However, the time before each one died was one of deep mutual reconnection and re-bonding as we said our goodbyes… and that has been another blessing.

The nature of adventure changes with the lifecycle. I gave up motorcycle adventure touring a couple of years ago (downgraded to four wheels) and am now much more focused on my healing work and internet outreach work.

I invite you to reflect on the positive adventures of your life that have arisen from the ashes of the not so positive.

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 – About the Author:

Psychologist Dr. Neill Neill maintains an active practice on Vancouver Island, BC, Canada, with a focus on healthy relationships and life after addictions. He is the author of Living with a Functioning Alcoholic – A Woman’s Survival Guide.  Get a copy of his free report “Codependency and Alcohol Addiction” at www.neillneill.com,

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