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Changing your life by changing your mind

Most of us feel upset and resentful from time to time, and for some that feeling seems to almost always be with us.  The word “resent” means literally to refeel, so those who carry resentments are simply replaying unhappy times in their lives over and over again.  One lady I worked with at one time kept saying to me, “But how can I feel happy when my husband is gone.”  I would usually tell her that she could feel sad that he was no longer with her, but she could begin to let go of the constant feelings of grief.  She insisted that wasn’t possible.  She would tell me that no matter how engrosing whatever she was doing was, she would also be thinking of how much she missed her husband and about all the things she wished she had done differently in her life with him..

It is very difficult to shift our thinking from one channel to another, but it can be done with lots and lots of practice.  The process can begin with the realization that no matter how hard we work at it, we can not change reality.  My patient’s husband was not going to come back, and she would never be able to change the way her life with him had been.  By spending so much of her energy resenting the fact that he was gone, she was in effect poisoning the current monments in her life.  We talked about the fact that her husband would not have wanted her to think that way, and gradually she began to see that she could begin to shift her thinking to more positive thoughts.

Many people allow their thinking to get stuck in certain tracks, and they come to believe that it is not possible to change this.  Their take on life is that they feel what they feel, and there is no way to feel differently.  In recent years, science has come a long way toward proving that what we think determines what plays out in our lives.  It doesn’t do so directly, of course, or we would all be winning the lottery all the time.  But when we think we are helpless to change our thinking, we find that is true in our lives.  When we begin to think about all the ways we might be able to shift our thought processes, we find we can do that occasionally.  Since practice makes perfect, we find that our ability to change our thinking can grow.

To give you an example of how this words, I will tell you that my parents lived through the “great depression” just prior to my birth.  It colored their lives and I grew up thinking that no matter how much I had, it was never enough.  Eventually I realized that my thoughts were always of scarcity, so scarcity was what I attracted to my life.  I worked very hard at shifting my thoughts to abundant thinking.  I would get mail from many worthy causes asking for donations.  In the past, I always felt that I did not have enough to give funds away.  Slowly I sifted my thinking to the realization that I might not have much, but I had more than many others, so I opted to share the little I had.  Since I was sending out abundant thoughts into the universe, the abundance in my life grew and grew.

If you have decided you want to learn to control your own thoughts (which will indeed change the way you view life and the people in it) you can begin by taking baby steps and progress from there.  Whenever, you find your thinking is going around and around like a hampster on a wheel, tell youself that you would like to change the way you are thinking.  The way that works best for me is to ask for help from a power greater than myself.  I simply say, “Please help me not think this way.”  It helps if you have some more positive thoughts available.  Think about something for which you are grateful.  Think, perhaps, about the reward you will give yourself when you have achieved a change in thinking.  Above all else, do not be discouraged when your thoughts shift back into an old rut.  Simply allow yourself to be aware that this has happened, and try again.  It will work if you work at it.


– About the Author:

I’m a retired senior, married 53 years, and have three sons and two grand children.  I’ve written all my life but have only published two books and one workbook.  I worked over 20 years as an addictions’ counselor.  My most recent book is of scripture based daily meditations and is titled “Talks with our Creator.” Information about the book can be found at

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spiritualawakening“Spiritual awakening is no longer an option, it is a necessity if humanity and the planet are to survive.” ~ Eckhart Tolle ~

We are here on earth for the spiritual advancement of our souls; to grow spiritually.  Whether we are aware of it or not, spiritual growth is always happening.

Spirituality is our alignment with our higher self;  it’s our personality lining up with our soul, in harmony.   It means developing the ability to ‘go with the flow’ effortlessly, keeping the energy of the Universe and our energy in unison.  In this way we develop reverence for life, and stand in gratitude for it, delighted to be alive.

The essence of spirituality is that it reveals our true self.  We stand in its bright light with humility and clarity, with forgiveness, love and compassion, not only for others but also for our selves.  When we become spiritually sound (strong),  we love our ‘self ‘ and our life, and thrive in it, because our spirit has arrived  at our ultimate nature and purpose, connected to our metaphysical reality.

We are entering  a time of higher order of logic and understanding that which comes from the heart.  The heart is inclusionary, meaning it simultaneously comprehends in various ways.  Understanding all that is, all at once.

“Your task is not to seek for LOVE, but to find the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.    ~ RUMI ~

Currently humanity is in transition, reshaping into heart centered behavior and beliefs. Here we learn that we are responsible for what we create. Being responsible for our own actions means working on gaining confidence and self respect; realizing that low self esteem is an excuse to be less than we are.  It means consciously choosing our behavior, understanding that we are in control.  Knowing that the inability to accept this responsibility is a result of insecurity; it means denial, and  creates a false sense of self.  With an open heart we should ask ourselves what it is that makes us happy, and strive for that.

Besides our current spiritual leaders, many artists and writers are leading the world into this new dimension of understanding.  These are the people who are ‘most open’ to the flow of heart center.  In a sense their art, be it a painting, a sculpture or a poem, comes straight from the wide open heart.

Often artists use their art as a vehicle for others to contemplate, connect with their inner Self and the world around them.  Suggestively they establish a bond, interpreting and provoking feelings that are heart center based.  Visualizing a truth; creating a transcending experience.

“All major religious traditions carry basically the same message; that is love, compassion and forgiveness.  The important thing is, they should be part of our daily life.”  ~ Tenzin Gyatso ~ 14th Dalai Lama ~

In order for us to grow spiritually, one of the first steps we need to take is to be open to the truth and willing to stand fearless in the unknown, trusting that we are capable.  Reminding ourselves that on the other side of fear lies freedom.  The spiritual path we choose does not matter as long as we put authentic energy behind all we do, and the only motive is to advance spiritually.

Currently humanity is crossing over to new spiritual territory.  We are becoming more aware of the deeper meaning of life.  We are synchronizing our heart, and using our heart to synchronize with our soul.  All of life is synchronicity.  All of life is meaningful. Finally the human race is becoming acutely aware of this.

“Underneath the world of sense perceptions and the world of mind activity, there is the vastness of being.” ~  Eckhart Tolle  ~

When we choose solitude, for instance in meditation, we come to a place of quiet and stillness.  The world falls away and our external identity ceases to exist for a while. We become ‘no body’ , and the pressures of the outside vanish.  It is a place where we can stop ‘doing’ and just ‘be’.  We try to stop mental labeling of sense perceptions.

In our basic state of consciousness we constantly seek our ‘Self ‘ ; we resist, and run away from the ‘now’.  In meditation, or solitude & stillness, we find ourselves more open, which gives us a sense of awe and wonder; we surrender to the ‘now’ and to ‘what is’; here we find liberation.

“Keep your heart in wonder at the daily miracles of your life; your pain would not seem less wondrous than your joy.”   ~  Khalil Gibran ~

Spiritual reality is created by the harmony within spirit, body and mind.  To achieve this harmony we have to find a delicate balance; learn to transform negative karma into spiritual strength.  Spirituality is about recognizing polarities in life and death, in beauty and pain, in laughter and tears.  All answers lie inside our heart, here we find our divine essence; the spirit being the direct connection to the divine.

Access your inner wisdom, and find peace.  With commitment and self discipline we can build a strong foundation of spirituality.  In finding our spirituality we find home base.  A place to embrace the ‘now’, without question or further agenda; where we surrender and possibly find bliss. Life can be a sacred adventure; to pursue psychological wholeness, spiritual integration and fulfillment of divine purpose.

We must sacrifice our illusions of separation; we are all one. This includes healing on the mental, emotional & physical levels in service to the deeper revelation of who we truly are as joyful, loving, peaceful and compassionate beings; this is our authentic self.

Now is the time to  embrace the challenge to become spiritually sound (strong), to transcend to your higher self.  This will not only bring peace in and around yourself, but will certainly affect the people surrounding you as well.  Become a powerful force in your own life. Tap into your intuitive, and creative guide, and realize your spirituality … realize life.

“Go to your bosom; knock there and ask your heart what it doth know.” ~ William Shakespeare~

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Understanding the Unexplainable

metaphysics eyeTo understand the unseen world you first need a clear comprehension of the individual make-up of a physical human being. We each arrive here with little to no memory of where we came from. Yet our imaginations give us clues at a very young age.  Have you ever dreamed of flying? While in a dream did a place or someone seem familiar or real? These virtual experiences can be hard to shake.

As humans we long to soar through the air, like the birds in the sky. There is a subconscious drive to feel fast-physical movement from a very young age. From wagons, amusement rides, bikes and onto fast cars, planes, skydiving and even climbing hills or mountains we long to feel the wind in our faces and not want our feet to touch the ground. Why?

In physical form our spirits are confined with the mass of a body.  Being in a life form has purpose and I believe we have chosen this journey.  Yet, in our subconscious mind we miss the freedom of being limitless which the astral plane provides.

An example of this was a scene from the movie Titanic. Picture when Rose, stands with Jack at the bow of the ship with her arms spread wide open. Didn’t you want to be there with them?  For those that saw the movie Inception, did you relate to the many levels and dimensions relative to time and place? Imagination can tie into the unknown truth.

Now take a moment to ask yourself what offers you personal exhalation? This joy or pleasure is fleeting in this physical plane and cannot be permanently sustained.  Although, when we are no longer in physical form, our energy can create this experience at any time with thought, though it is processed at a different level.

Most of us, at some time in our life, get a glimpse of the unexplainable.  Messages are constantly transcending the dimensions. Has a light or the television ever came on by itself or a person seem to move in a photo?  Maybe a bird, animal or insect magically appeared that you felt brought you a direct message.

Can you recall a strong feeling before something happened, an inner knowing or inner voice you can’t explain? We usually identify these experiences as hunches, instinct or intuition.  Actually, this is your brain working with the emotion of faith, which attaches to a wireless network that opens a connection to your higher self and your creator.

It is a proven fact that our minds can perceive eight seconds into the future. Even so, this does not explain how some people receive communication, warnings or premonitions about the far future, get messages from departed loved ones or channel guidance coming from a higher source.

As an energy reader, I can tell you there isn’t anything humanly different about those who accomplish this. It is a gift, not unlike those who are born with a talent for music or art. What comes through I do not retain. I am just the messenger.

A psychic, mystic, prophet, or master of spiritual arts uses this wireless connection to receive higher guidance.  It is a personal connection to an unseen, unexplainable place that truly does exist, just not in this dimension. It has been called a higher realm of consciousness, the astral plane or spirit world. Physically you cannot remain in this space, but it is possible to visit there for a while.

Note that through meditation, spiritual disciplines; near death and hypnosis many individuals have documented these experiences of mental transcendence. Personally I received my past life name (Itasia) while under hypnosis and discovered that I had lived in Greece.  My advise to anyone who is naturally intuitive to open your heart and mind to this gift and have faith in what it offers.

If you feel inclined to seek further enlightenment there are many spiritual masters whose writings and teachings you might find interesting. Some of my favorites are Deepak Chopra, Khalil Gilbran, Eckhart Tolle, Gary Zukav, Dr. Wayne Dyer and Shirley MacLaine.

You can visit Spiritual places that call to you, like Egypt, Machu Pichu, Greece and the cradle of civilization. Follow a well-known spiritual teacher or go on a Vision Quest of your own. All these paths will offer you enlightenment.

What this intuitive gift has given me is a greater understanding of what is behind the veil. This knowledge offered me great inner peace, especially after my son was killed in a car accident.  For those who seek more knowledge you can Google: Afterlife, Astrology, Quantum Mysticism or the Supernatural.  More subjects like this will also continue to be discussed here on my blog.

I will close by sharing my latest personal insight.  A few years ago my path crossed with an amazing, talented woman who decorated my home. We instantly had a strong connection, but what was to follow I still find hard to fathom.

She was the first person who ever said to me, “I think I’ve known you in a past life.”

Well after reading her Tarot cards, we discovered that she had always wanted to go to Greece, like I did. When I pulled out the brochure I’d been saving, she gasped, because she had been saving the exact same one.

That’s not all.  When our husbands met, they too, connected and instantly became friends.  It is uncanny how we all feel like we’ve known one another all our lives.

Then last year, the four of us took a cruise to the Mediterranean together. We never spoke about it, but learned our anniversaries were two days apart and celebrated them on the cruise.

My special friend is very intuitive, but hadn’t explored this very much. She loved the Tarot cards and after giving her a few lessons she has had some very strange things happen.  She would get a physical tingling down her spine to validate the truth of something she said. Soon she started receiving messages from my departed son.

Recently, on the night before my son’s birthday something woke her up and she couldn’t go back to sleep. Drawn to her computer she put in his name (actually misspelling it) and discovered a U-tube video of my son singing for an audition.  She was so excited when she called to tell me that next morning about it.  I was sure she was mistaken because there was no U-tube or the Internet when he passed away in 1992. My friend was sure it was my son even though they had never met and said that she would send me the e-mail with the attached video.

I could hardly believe it as my eyes filled with tears. There was my sixteen-year-old son in 1987, at a singing audition for a special Arts School. (It was posted on u-tube as an anniversary re-cap for the school).  My husband and I had never seen this video and he sang to us on his fortieth birthday.  Unexplainable….That’s not all.

There had to be an explanation why she would be getting these messages.  I prayed for this to be shown to me.

I learned that it was tied to a past-life karmic debt between my husband, my son and me.  Years ago I had a vision from another lifetime. I recalled that while I sat on cement bench, my husband approached me and was dressed in Roman soldier He announced that he was going off to battle and came to say goodbye. I had a strong feeling that he would not return and told him that. He dismissed my warning and said, “I promise to come back to you.”

Well, he died and did not return. Later I was told that he gave up his life to save a young soldier. My heart knew that soldier had been my son in this lifetime and that he settled this debt by giving up his life now so that I would grow old with my husband.

What I learned was the reason he had offered his life for this young soldier is that his mother in that lifetime was my best friend. Now in this lifetime our paths have crossed again and we are best friends.  We are still figuring out how her current husband, a great guy like mine, fits into this, but I will keep you updated as things unfold.


Always remember fear holds you back and faith moves you forward,

Wishing you an enlightened Journey,

Michele Marie Tate


MicheleAbout the Author:

I am an author and a mystic. My book Blood, Money, Power is inspired by a true story and takes the reader back in time. Follow the Preston family bloodline for three generations (1920-1997) Check out my spiritual blog at:

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40 Ways to Let Go and Feel Less Pain

Letting go brings clarityEckhart Tolle believes we create and maintain problems because they give us a sense of identity. Perhaps this explains why we often hold onto our pain far beyond its ability to serve us.

We replay past mistakes over and over again in our head, allowing feelings of shame and regret to shape our actions in the present. We cling to frustration and worry about the future, as if the act of fixation somehow gives us power. We hold stress in our minds and bodies, potentially creating serious health issues, and accept that state of tension as the norm.

Though it may sound simple, Ajahn Chah’s advice speaks volumes:

“If you let go a little, you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace.”

There will never be a time when life is simple. There will always be time to practice accepting that. Every moment is a chance to let go and feel peaceful. Here are 40 ideas to get started:


Let Go Of Frustration with Yourself/Your Life

1. Learn a new skill instead of dwelling on the skills you never mastered.

2. Change your perception—see the root cause as a blessing in disguise.

3. Cry it out. According to Dr. William Frey II, PH.D., biochemist at the Ramset Medical Center in Minneapolis crying away your negative feelings releases harmful chemicals that build up in your body due to stress.

4. Channel your discontent into an immediate positive action—make some calls about new job opportunities, or walk to the community center to volunteer.

5. Use meditation or yoga to bring you into the present moment (instead of dwelling on the past of worrying about the future.)

6. Make a list of your accomplishments—even the small ones— and add to it daily. You’ll have to let go of a little discontentment to make space for this self satisfaction.

7. Visualize a box in your head labeled “Expectations.” Whenever you start dwelling on how things should be or should have been, mentally shelve the thoughts in this box.

8. Engage in a physical activity. Exercise decreases stress hormones and increases endorphins, chemicals that improve your state of mind.

9. Focus all your energy on something you can actually control, instead of dwelling on things you can’t.

10. Express your feelings through a creative outlet, like blogging or painting. Add this to your to-do list and cross it off when you’re done. This gives you permission to shift your focus after the activity.

Let go of Anger and Bitterness

11. Feel it fully. If you stifle your feelings, they may leak out and affect everyone around you—not just the person who inspired your anger. Before you can let go of any emotion you have to feel it fully.

12. Give yourself a rant window. Let yourself vent for a day before confronting the person who troubled you. This will diffuse the hostility and give you time to plan a rational confrontation.

13. Remind yourself that anger hurts you more than the person who upset you, and visualize it melting away as an act of kindness to yourself.

14. Use Psychologist Steven Stosny’s HEALS technique to prevent impulsive action, which will only prolong the negative feelings.

15. Take responsibility. Many times when you’re angry, you focus on what someone else did that was wrong—which essentially gives away your power. When you focus on what you could have done better, you often feel empowered and less bitter.

16. Put yourself in the offender’s shoes. We all make mistakes; and odds are you could have easily slipped up just like your husband, father, or friend did. Compassion dissolves anger.

17. Metaphorically throw it away; i.e., jog on the beach with a backpack full of tennis balls. After you’ve built up a bit of rush, toss the balls one by one, labeling each as a part of your anger. (You’ll need to retrieve these—litter angers the earth!)

18. Use a stress ball, and express your anger physically and vocally when you use it. Make a scrunched up face or grunt. You may feel silly, but this allows you to actually express what you’re feeling inside.

19. Wear a rubber band on your wrist, and gently flick it when you start obsessing on angry thoughts. This trains your mind to associate that type of persistent negativity with something unpleasant.

20. Remind yourself these are your only three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it. These acts create happiness; holding onto bitterness never does.

Let Go Of Past Relationships

21. Identify what the experience taught you to help develop a sense of closure.

22. Write everything you want to express in a letter. Even if you choose not to send it, clarifying your feelings will help you come to terms with reality as it is now.

23. Remember both the good and the bad. Even if appears this way now, the past was not perfect. Acknowledging this may minimize your sense of loss. As Laura Oliver says, “It’s easier to let go of a human than a hero.”

24. Un-romanticize the way you view love. Of course you’ll feel devastated if you believe you lost your soul mate. If you think you can find a love that amazing or better again it will be easier to move on.

25. Visualize an empowered single you—the person you were before meeting your last love. That person was pretty awesome, and now you have the chance to be him or her again.

26. Create a space that reflects your present reality. Take down his pictures; delete her emails from your saved folder.

27. Reward yourself for small acts of acceptance. Get a facial after you delete his number from your phone, or head to the local bar after putting all her things in a box.

28. Hang this statement somewhere you can see it. “Letting go is love. Holding on is attachment.”

29. Replace your emotional thoughts with facts. When you think, “I’ll never feel loved again!” don’t resist that feeling. Instead, move on to another thought, like “I learned a new song for karaoke tonight.”

30. Use the silly voice technique. According to Russ Harris, author of The Happiness Trap, swapping the voice in your head with a cartoon voice will help take back power from the troubling thought.

Let Go Of Stress

31. Use a deep breathing technique, like ujayii, to soothe yourself and seep into the present moment.

32. Immerse yourself in a group activity. Enjoying the people in your life may help put your problems in perspective.

33. Consider this quotation by Eckhart Tolle:Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose.” Questioning how your stress serves you may help you let it go.

34. Metaphorically release it. Write down all your stresses and toss the paper into your fireplace.

35. Replace your thoughts. Notice when you begin thinking about something that stresses you so you can shift your thought process to something more pleasant—like your passion for your hobby.

36. Take a sauna break. Studies reveal that people who go to sauna at least twice a week for 10-30 minutes are less stressed after work than others with similar jobs who don’t.

37. Use this clever technique by Peak Personal Performance to fully digest and release your stress about a situation.

38. Organize your desk. According to Georgia Witkin, assistant director of psychiatry at Mount Sinai School of Medicine, completing a small task increases your sense of control and decreases your stress level.

39. Use it up. Make two lists: one with the root causes of your stress, and one with actions to address them. As you complete these tasks, visualize yourself utilizing and depleting your “stress supply.”

40. Laugh it out. Research shows that laughter soothes tension, improves your immune system, and even eases pain. If you can’t relax for long, start with just ten minutes watching a funny video on YouTube.

It’s a long list, but there’s much left to be said! Can you think of anything to add to this list—other areas of life where we need to practice letting go, and other techniques to start doing it right now?


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