Posts Tagged Judgement
Can we look deeper within ourselves? Can we see that many times our judgements happen due to our
vested interest, when a personal desire goes unfulfilled? If the very same situation would had happened to someone else, then perhaps we may not have judged it the way we did. However when the mind experiences a personal loss, then it is quick to judge, have you noticed this? Many times we judge the acts of others, yet when the same act is committed by us, we are completely accepting of ourselves. This happens to the best of us – this is ego and attachment at play…Read more >>>>Many times we judge the acts of others, How can we not judge!.
There is a theory in today’s society that every individual should be accepted for who they are; that all individualsdeserve our love and respect, regardless of their actions. That we have the right to form an “opinion,” however, we should not “judge.” There is a fine line between “opinion” and “judgment” and we cannot make a judgment without first forming an opinion. They both go hand in hand… we cannot have one without the other.
It is impossible to live in our 3-D world without judging the situations we find ourselves in. These situations assist us in defining who we are and what we are willing to stand for. Until our world has reached a point of 100% agreement, it will continue to be this way. Everyday, we are forced to decide something about/for ourselves. No matter what happens to us on our journey, we will form an opinion on it and that opinion will lead to a judgment of some kind.
So, are all judgments negative in nature? Absolutely not! We are programmed to believe the word “judgment” is negative behavior, however, it is alright for us to have an “opinion.” Sorry folks, they are one and the same.
Opinion is defined as, “A belief not based on absolute certainty or positive knowledge, but on what seems true, valid or probable to one’s own mind; judgment.”
Judgment is defined as, “Deciding, an opinion or estimate, criticism or censure. The ability to come to opinions about things.”
As human beings, we form an opinion and we judge. It is what we do and how we define ourselves. Politically correct terms (sugar coating) only goes so far. Humanity’s evolution will be the deciding factor as to when we can all live in peace.
Life comes with lessons. It is part of the plan. Every soul comes to Earth knowing what their personality traits are going to be. We also know we will be on the receiving and the giving end of the lessons we will endure. No one is immune. In one situation, we will receive the lesson, so be open to it and learn from it. Do not be afraid to look in the mirror. In another situation, we will be the giver of the lesson and it will be the other individuals responsibility to accept the lesson and learn from it. When we are the receiver, it is our responsibility to learn something about ourself. When we are the giver, the responsibility lies with someone else. Learning the difference between the two will make life easier to understand and cope with.
There is no Universal law that says we have to accept the personality traits, opinions or beliefs of another individual. But if we take a step back and accept our emotional reaction(s), we can accept the situation for what it is. There is no reason to blame, point fingers or argue that you are right and they are wrong. People are who they are and their personal growth and maturity is their responsibility.
So, if we accept someone on a soul level, do we have to accept the person they have chose to become? I do not believe you do. Maybe the reason we have crossed paths with this individual is for them to assist us in defining who we are. We do not have to accept their actions, but we can learn from them and decide (form an opinion) on what is right for us. We have to decide what role that individual or situation plays in our life. Why did it happen? What can we learn from it? Not every individual is destined to stay in our lives. When it is time to move on, do not be afraid to do so. But take the LESSON with you, not the anger, resentment and regret that may try to follow.
No one is perfect. We all have a shadow side and it is the shadow areas that we learn our most important lessons from if we are willing to open our eyes and see them. The soul is timeless and all-knowing, but only to the level of our growth. Yes, even souls have limits and levels of achievement and our personalities can reflect that. We come here knowing what we need to work on. What areas of personal and soul growth will be needed. Sometimes we achieve those goals, sometimes we do not. And sometimes….we simply have to stop and breathe for awhile.
Someone once told me, “Life will only be difficult if you allow it to be.” While that may look good on paper, it is not always easy to apply in our everyday lives. Sometimes things occur in life that we have no control over. All we can do is look for the lesson (and yes, there will always be one) and decide what our emotional reaction(s) is going to be. The soul knows, so listen to it, learn the lesson and adjust your personality accordingly.
Opinions/judgments do not have to build walls that segregate humanity. We choose to do that. We do not have to agree 100% of the time, but we also do not have to fight and argue over whose opinion is superior. We need to simply allow life’s lessons to define our role. These lessons will always come in the form of a situation or person in your life. We do not have to like it, but it is our responsibility to learn and grow from it.
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Written by Joanne Wellington for Mediums World
Yes Mike Robbins is quite right in many aspects of his article The Power of Empathy and I have to say and have mentioned to people before that a cold and judgmental person is such a sad thing to see or be.
I wish people could learn to be more understanding. Nothing makes me more angry and sad than a cold and judgmental person.
We all have judgmental prejudices. We all think thoughts that separate us from one another. We may not necessarily agree with everyone, that would be very impossible, but we can at least try to understand why people do something or act in a certain way. We can learn a lot that way…
This may or may not change anything, but I have always felt bad in the past when I have judged people… WE really should do better…. We should learn not to judge . Life is so much more enriching the more people you know and there really are some wonderful people out there once you let go, and you will find out the more diverse they are.
I challenge people now to try to make yourself a better person. You may not always agree with others, but is it really so hard to see through someone else’s eyes and see the other side of the coin ? Trust me, you’ll be happier if you do. understanding is great patience, and great patience is gold within us……!!..its very important for your children to learn too if you have them..
Try it for you ,do it for them , lets help make the world a better place .
Written by Joanne Wellington for Mediums World
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