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What is love? There are many schools of thought and I must say, being based in perception, ‘love’ is highly misunderstood.
Love is an experience. It’s an energy utilized for the highest good. It has nothing to do with a person, place or thing; it’s a feeling, a gift of light, and when we allow it to consume us, it raises our vibration and enhance our lives. On the other hand, if we permit our observations and judgments to overshadow the love we feel for someone else, or ourselves for that matter, we’re no longer fully experiencing love.
Allowing love is challenging. Love is not. Love shows up and inspires us and often times, as soon as something happens we deem unacceptable or less than favorable, we stop dead in our tracks and dismiss the person, place or thing. However, for the courageous, love is something they cling too because they’ve felt the fire and caught a glimpse of the possibilities. Unfortunately, many people believe love is difficult and jump from person to person and circumstance to circumstance because it’s easier to start anew rather than explore the depths of their being. You see, that is what love does. It opens the heart and doors to our core. It causes us to face the shadows in order to embrace the light; yet, so many people are afraid to really look at the dark and will write it off as being the wrong person, place or thing.
I’m here to tell you, there is no such thing as right or wrong; we are simply introduced to experiences that offer beautifully complex opportunities to embrace ourselves in our entirety.
Society tells us there is someone for everyone; that each one of us has a soul mate and so on. What if this was someone’s way of justifying their own pursuit of love? What if anyone is that person, we’re just consumers of the belief that there is only one and choose to pursue that perfect person; yet, when perfection is NEVER found, we adopt the philosophy we’re destined to ‘do’ life alone and settle until we can’t take ‘it’ any longer or that person does show up. It’s no wonder so many people walk around feeling lost and confused. The perfection, as we define it, doesn’t lie in a person, place or thing, it lies in the opportunity to allow love to surround and support us; to break us down and reveal the things we’ve been avoiding and embrace them as a part of us with someone else watching and showering us with the trust, patience and compassion. The biggest problem I see is when one or both people are sold on the concept of finding the right one and feeling discouraged when breakdowns occur.
Breakdowns are opportunities to shift, grow, nurture and persevere! It’s what inspires all forms of art, and the reason I’m writing this article. I’m committed to and believe in the power of love. Is it beautiful and perfect? That depends on your definition and whether or not you’re willing to expand your thinking to embrace the beauty of the shadow and see the perfection in the imperfections.
Love is God’s gift to each of us. It’s a Divine flash light, of sorts, to explore the depths of our individual Universe’s. To reject or resist love is to reject or resist the Divine. To turn away from the light is to buy into one more context: stay away from the light … sound familiar? Oddly enough, we’re actually pursuing the light in our soul, so why on earth do we shy away from the light of another? We are light beings, and allowing the light of another to fuel our fire is God’s greatest gift to be all that we can be. Our shadows are weaknesses that are complimented by the love and strength of another, not something to run from or hide. Allowing another to see this side of us and be the strength we deserve is the greatest sign of gratitude we can give to our self, the other person and most importantly the One ~ the Divine!
- Life Experiences – Choice – Karma – Unconditional Love – Part 5 (mediumsworld.wordpress.com)
It’s not where you look but who you are.
You must be that which you desire. There’s no point whatsoever in an unloving man or woman bemoaning their inability to find a partner. They’re doomed to endless frustration because they don’t recognize the perfect match when it appears. That loving person could be right there, right now, and their resistance doesn’t allow them to see it. The unloving person continues to blame bad luck or a series of external factors for their not having a loving relationship.
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“We are want to condemn self-love; but what we really mean to condemn is contrary to self-love. It is that mixture of selfishness and self-hate that permanently pursues us, that prevents us from loving others, and that prohibits us from losing ourselves.” ~ Paul Valery, French Poet, 1871 – 1945
DR. LISA LOVE REFLECTIONS
As a counselor I have often told people that they need to learn to love themselves. Yet, while saying this to others, I have at times taken pause to reflect and ask myself, “What does that really mean? How do we know the difference between a self-love and a selfish love? And, what can we do practically to love ourselves in the right way?” Perhaps the quote above holds a clue, because I believe true self love fills us with enough joy, peace, and love that our desire to be loving human beings grows. Because of this we want to express more empathy, compassion, and understanding towards others. Selfish love does the contrary. It increases our sense of self-loathing or our disdain and anger towards others. It causes us to act increasingly in our own best interests without considering the interests of others. It causes us to want to sacrifice others needs and desires in service to our own, instead of the other way around. Or, it causes us to self-destruct through a number of behaviors that may feel good temporarily, but ultimately they lead to the shutting down of our hearts and spiral us downward into increased self-loathing and self-reproach.
How then do we love ourselves in the right way? By first and foremost learning what love is. Then, by insisting that we feed ourselves with that love. This is best done by finding people who know how to love. From them we learn how to adopt loving mindsets, feelings, and behaviors. And, it is done by setting boundaries on people who don’t know how to encourage the greatest level of love in us. Because when we truly have that kind of love in our lives we are increasingly a blessing to others. Which is why real love requires that we love ourselves in the right way, so we can have the strength to love, the wisdom to love, and the energy to love those who need our love the most.
Dr. Lisa Love
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- Forgiving, Forgetting, & Boundary Setting (mediumsworld.wordpress.com)
Agate – helps to awaken your inherent talents, increases creativity and stimulates intellectual as well as analytical abilities. This stone gives you the confidence to be the best you can be in achieving success by instilling courage and dispelling fears in the wearer.
Amber – Amber absorbs negative energies and transforms them into positive forces that stimulate the body to heal itself. It can also help counteract suicidal or depressive tendencies.
Amethyst – has the power to calm the mind and emotions, creating a sense of peace. Amethyst also stimulates the intellectual and creative side of you. Amethysts are very powerful for people who suffer sleepless nights or for those with disturbing dreams and nightmares.
Ametrine – is an extremely energetic quartz of courage and harmony that contains both Amethyst and Citrine. Ametrine expels prejudice, stimulates creativity, strengthens concentration, promotes optimism and aids thinking things through.
Aquamarine – This beautiful crystal is reputedly able to dampen fears and gives its wearer a sense of confidence. It promotes communication and helps one to express oneselves. It is beneficial to wear it to examinations or while meditating.
Aventurine – This crystal promotes clarity of mind and self confidence thus reinforces decisiveness and amplifies leadership qualities. Aventurine helps you to focus and find creative solutions when you’re feeling overwhelmed by problems.
Bloodstone – believed to have great magical and protective properties, possessing the ability to banish evil, keep out undesirable influences and dispel negativity. As its name suggests, Bloodstone is an excellent blood cleanser.
Carnelian – promotes happiness, creativity, steadfastness, confidence, courage, analytical power and assertiveness, and helps one to achieve greater success in career and personal matters.
Charoite – Charoite transmutes negativity and cleanses the aura. It bestows drive and vigor and is able to reduce stress and worry, bringing about a relaxed attitude. Charoite is also used to overcome obsessions and compulsions.
Clear Quartz – has very strong powers of protection against anyone who doesn’t mean you well. Clear Quartz is a pure and powerful energy source which has the ability to transmit and receive energy.
Garnet – is also known as the stone of health, passion and romantic love. It enhances one’s sexuality, sensuality and intimacy. Garnet also helps one to effectively deal with high stress, sadness, depression and critical situations.
Hematite – In physical healing, crystal healers credit Hematite with the ability to stimulate iron absorption, which in turn improves oxygen supply to the body and blood circulation.
Jade – is a desired stone prized for thousands of year in China for its protective powers and healing qualities. It is also said to stimulate creativity and mental agility, and enhance one’s health. Jade is regarded as a symbol of the good and the beautiful.
Jasper – The powerful Jasper crystal is a stone that cools, soothes and calms the mind and nerves, hence reduces stress and brings tranquility. It enhances one’s ability to relax and heal if necessary.
Lapis Lazuli – helps make one feel more empowered and cultivate a more fearless, adventuresome spirit and encourages taking charge of life. It also stimulates the higher faculties of the mind, bringing objectivity and clarity.
Moonstone – or Moonstone is most a great stone used to alleviate period pains, reduce emotional turbulence during menopause and enhances fertility. Moonstone helps bring out the best feminine qualities in a woman, provides emotional balance and enhances her sensitivity and intuition.
Obsidian – is perfect to boost your personal self-esteem and confidence. Obsidian is a very protective stone and is excellent for blocking out and dissolving negative energies, thus protecting you against evil intentions.
Onyx – is believed to be a powerful protection stone that absorbs negative forces and influences and transforms them into positive ones. Onyx is also said to have been helpful to people who are trying to move on after a bad relationships or let go of past attachments.
Peridot – is a helpful stone used to ‘open’ the heart and let go of “old baggage” such as people or the past, and to assist one to admit mistakes and move on. Peridot is also reputed to be a great stone to alleviate jealousy, anger, resentment and spite.
Prehnite – is a stone of unconditional love and the crystal to heal the healer. Prehnite enhances precognition and inner knowing. It is a stone that enables you always to be prepared, no matter what.
Rhodochrosite – is a crystal that represents selfless love and compassion, excellent for the heart and relationships. It is also a helpful stone used to remove denial, lift depressed mood, promote positive attitude, self-worth and acknowledgement of painful feelings.
Rose Quartz – Widely known as the ‘Love Stone’, Rose Quartz is most favored for its ability in speeding up the process for those seeking true love, mending broken relationships and jazzing up your existing romance life.
Ruby – is a very energetic stone that imparts vigor to life, fires enthusiasm, encourages passion for life and motivates one in achieving goals. Like citrine, it is also a stone of abundance that has the power to help prevent financial losses
Rutilated Quartz – is said to be the most energizing and uplifiting stone with anti-depressive effect. Rutilated Quartz is believed to relieve loneliness, attract love and stabilize relationships. It is also used to bring new hope, relieve guilt, aid sleep, assist decision making and enhance creativity.
Sapphire – is known as the wisdom stone. Blue sapphire is traditionally associated with love and purity. It focuses and calms the mind and releases unwanted thoughts and mental tension. Place on the throat, sapphire releases frustration and facilitates self-expression.
Smoky quartz – is a good stone to overcome lethargy. It encourages concentration and pragmatism. It is also an excellent stone used to absorb electromagnetic smog (detectable electromagnetic field that can be very harmful to sensitive people).
Sodalite – is a stone that instills a drive for truth and an urge toward idealism, making it possible to remain true to yourself and stand up for your beliefs. Sodalite clears electromagnetic pollution and can be placed on computers to block their emanations
Tiger’s Eye – gives out energy that encourages your passion for life to blossom and stimulates your willpower and the desire for success. Tiger’s Eye also promotes self confidence, self esteem, integrity, positive outlook on life as well as arms you with strength, courage and determination.
Turquoise – gives you tranquility refreshment and pushes you through with resourcefulness and enhances communication. It creates self awareness and promotes foresight.
Turquoise is reputed to be responsible for faithfulness and reliable relationships.
Watermelon Tourmaline – is a crystal particularly effective in promoting self-love and opening one’s heart up to accept love. It increases happiness, serenity, compassion, tolerance and understanding in its wearer.
Zoisite – is a crystal that has the ability to transmute negative energies into positive ones. It is also a helpful stone used to dispel lethargy and promote expression of repressed feelings and emotions. Mentally, Zoisite increases creativity and focus.
Jenny Lin – About the Author:
Jenny Lin is the author of Ideal Crystal Store, an online store offering crystal bracelets, necklaces, pendants, balls, décor.