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There is a lot more to mediumship than is sometimes explained or realised. The first step should be to get to know & understand your “true self”. To understand YOU means exploring your own true feeling towards life, your emotions/feelings, past experiences, mistakes you have made and your own personal philosophy on life. This is only a brief guide towards finding “self” but in my opinion (and it is only mine) finding and understanding “self” is one of the most important foundations of mediumship. True mediumship is not all about passing messages from spirit sometimes people refer to you for guidance and understanding, for support, a shoulder to cry on. How can we truly understand the messages, the emotions, the love, the guidance from spirit or “be there” for people this side of life who need our love comfort and support, unless we understand and know “our true self”.
I have posted and article below from wikiHow as a guide and reference for you… I hope it helps… The path to finding self is not and easy one and it’s “on-going”… it never stops… good luck on your journey…
How to find Yourself
Finding yourself is an enlightening experience. You become self-sufficient and do things for others without expectations of something in return. You are no longer needy and become utterly grateful for all the things people have done for you in the past. Finding yourself is a time of harmony because you develop that philosophy or belief system that will carry you throughout the rest of your life. When you love yourself and who you are, you will savor and enjoy both life’s pain and pleasures. How do you know you have found yourself? When you are able to help others find themselves. Finding yourself is not easy. If you have never felt connected to who you are, and you want to find whatever makes you you, being yourself will be hard. The first step is always the hardest, but after that hill, you will be smooth sailing to discovering who you are.
Create your life timeline. Write down all of your major goals in your life that you feel will affect you and will make you who you are. Also, remember all your mistakes and take away the postive learning experience . Don’t dwell on negative experiences but realize that if it had not been for those past experiences you would not be where or who you are today.
- Start with a clean slate. Develop your own moral conduct and practice sticking to it. Remove vice from your life. Smoking, over-eating, and over-drinking will prevent you from functioning at your peak. This may take some major rehabilitation for some individuals. Remember, you can’t drive your life forward if you are always gazing through your rear-view mirror!
- Now that you have a clean slate and you realize some people still think you stink: Forget about what everyone else thinks! You cannot please everyone. While you might not want to disappoint the people close to you, they should want you to be happy. As long as you continue to exist to fulfill other people’s ideas of who you should be, you’ll never know your true talents. “He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away.” – Raymond Hull
- ‘Find solitude’. Get away from the expectations, the conversations, the noise, the media, and the pressure. Take some time each day to go for a long walk and think. Plant yourself on a park bench and look. Take a long, thoughtful road trip. Whatever you do, move away from anything that distracts you from contemplating your life and where you want it to go. In solitude, you should feel independent and self-sufficient, not lonely, needy or afraid.
- Ask yourself every question in the book, questions that are difficult, that dare to look at the big pictures, such as:
- If I had all the resources in the world – if I didn’t need to make money – what would I be doing with my day to day life and why? Perhaps you’d be painting, or writing, or farming, or exploring the Amazon rain forest. Don’t hold back.
- What do I want to look back on in my life and say that I never regretted? Would you regret never having travelled abroad? Would you regret never having asked that person out, even if it meant risking rejection? Would you regret not spending enough time with your family when you could? This question can be particularly difficult for some people.
- If you had to choose three words to describe the kind of person you’d love to be, what would those words be? Adventurous? Loving? Open? Honest? Hilarious? Optimistic? Realistic? Motivated? Resilient? Don’t be afraid to pick up a thesaurus. Don’t be afraid to choose words that are considered negative. Sometimes your traits that others don’t like become useful only in emergency situations or are valuable to the job you are meant to perform. If you do have a truly negative trait work on redirecting that energy to something positive. Exercising compensates for many bad habits and there are hobbies for almost every vice. Pole dancing is becoming a hobby! Don’t wash your clothes much? Try camping. Maybe you’ll like it?
Write down your answers.
Beyond your time alone, it’s easy for these thoughts to slip to the back of your mind and be forgotten. If you have them written down, then every time you reflect, you can review your notes and take it a step further, instead of answering the same questions all over again.
Act upon your newly discovered knowledge.
Do the things that you want to do! Pick up those water-colors. Write a short story. Plan a trip to Mombasa, Mt Kenya, a walk at Nairobi Safari Walk. Have dinner with a family member. Start cracking jokes. Open up. Tell the truth. Whatever it is that you’ve decided you want to be or do, start being and doing it now.
Be ready for dead ends.
Finding yourself is a journey, not a destination. A lot of it is trial and error. That’s the price you pay in return for the satisfaction you receive: More often than not, you hit a bump in the road, and sometimes you fall flat on your face. Be prepared to understand and accept that this is a part of the process, and commit to getting right back up and starting over. It’s not going to be easy – it never has been for anybody – but if you learn to see that as a chance to prove how much you want to find yourself, then you’ll find fulfillment and security in your pursuit. When you are yourself, everyone will respect you more and treat you kindly. Best of all, you will always feel good about yourself.
- You’re never as bad or as good as people say.
- Resist the urge to feel like you’re the only one going through this:All my life I had been looking for something, and everywhere I turned someone tried to tell me what it was. I accepted their answers too, though they were often in contradiction and even self-contradictory. I was naive. I was looking for myself and asking everyone except myself questions which I, and only I, could answer. It took me a long time and much painful boomeranging of my expectations to achieve a realization everyone else appears to have been born with: that I am nobody but myself. ~ Ralph Ellison, “Invisible Man”
- Be yourself and make sure no one influences who you are. It will make finding yourself even harder since people are influencing who you think you are.
- Don’t be afraid to sleep on it. There’s no hurry in making decisions, and you’ll be more likely to make good ones if your mind is calm and rested.
- Be forgiving and learn to let go.
- Don’t spread bad gossip or otherwise speak ill about other people. Knocking others down is not the path to self-knowledge. It only compromises your dignity as a human being and makes others dislike you.
- Do not let others decide for you what you are destined to do. Their path may not be the correct path for you. What works for one person may not work for the next.
- Don’t lie to yourself and try to be someone you are not. Remember this is about being yourself. As it is important to not let family members decide, it is also important not to let society and the media push you in a certain direction, especially when it comes to your physical appearance.
- Don’t let yourself get caught up in a habit of constantly changing who you are or how you act just to fit in.
- Don’t feel you have to prove your worth to the world.
- Be careful, you might not immediately like who you find.
- Don’t over analyze everything! Don’t think about how you should act– just be yourself and the rest will come.
To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.